Updated: Jul 17, 2021
Boredom, leisure, pleasure and lack of incentive to work hard describe our modern digital age. Part of the reason, I believe, is that many lack purpose and focus in life, and therefore motivation.
Many dads and moms share with me their grief as they think of their high-school aged children. “They’re getting poor grades”. “All they care about is fun.” “They’re not studying.” “They’re hanging around with bad friends.”
The high hopes and dreams of parents for their sons and daughters are shattered. After talking with one father for a while about his son, he asked, “Do you have any advice as to what I should do?” An easy question, but not an easy answer. I asked him, “What’s his goal? What does he want to do with his life?” He said, “Only to have fun.”
So many parents I know are at a loss. They don’t know what to do. Ideally, at this age, there should be good communication between parents and their teen children. Teens should be able to share their questions and their struggles with their parents. But that can only happen if there is a healthy relationship, an open and transparent relationship between parents and children.
The sad truth is that the problem lies often with parents first of all. It may be something was missing in your relationship with your children in the younger years, and now you see the results. Maybe both dad and mom were working out and you had no time for them? Maybe it was a lack of discipline? Maybe their digital devices raised them? Maybe it’s a combination of all of these? Many see the precious lives of their children going to waste.
But the problem is greater. Many families do not live in a right relationship with God. This is the biggest problem. Children, therefore, are not properly anchored. Families have no spiritual or moral compass. Children grow up not knowing where they come from, who they are, or where they are going. They have nothing worthwhile to live for.
We need God and His Word. It’s about having our lives anchored in Him, in Jesus Christ, who is the way, the truth and the life. Christ forgives and also restores all who ask! He restores meaning and purpose to life so that we can live our precious lives to the full, providing a spiritual and moral compass for our families.
By Pastor Tony Zekveld
Jun 1, 2017